[SEX ED] Getting Started: An Anal Training Guide for Beginners

There is an enormous amount of pleasure to be had during anal stimulation… like, enormous! 

This really isn’t an exaggeration, as the anus is full of sensitive nerve endings that, when stimulated, create a seriously heightened sense of pleasure for all.

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Why is Anal Play So Pleasurable?

For those assigned male at birth, anal play is great because it means that the prostate is targeted. The prostate is a walnut-sized gland that intensifies one’s orgasm, making it more powerful and sometimes longer-lasting.

For those assigned women at birth, anal play is amazing because it indirectly stimulated the A-spot, which is about two inches higher than the G-spot. Sometimes, the A-spot is known as ‘the female prostate’ because it’s located in the same position as the prostate in those assigned male at birth.

In other words, anal pleasure is something you should probably add to your bucket list, because it’s a goldmine when it comes to magical euphoria for all. With that, let’s touch on the subject of anal training!

What is Anal Training?

Anal training, or anal sex training, is when you begin to explore and strengthen your anal region by inserting larger toys or objects over time. This, of course, takes patience and is a progressive activity, that which lasts a different amount of time, depending on the person. 

Anal training is an activity that’ll allow you to feel more comfortable and to experience more anal arousal in the form of ‘fullness’ 

There are tons of anal training kits available for you to start off small and work your way up at your own pace. And there are also lots of anal sex toys that can do all kinds of magical things, like vibrate, thrust, or rotate. 

How to Anal Train for Beginners

If you’ve never experienced the bliss that is anal pleasure, there are certain things that are important to know beforehand. One cannot merely engage in anal stretching without knowing the basics of how to anal train first...

Anal Training: The Basics

Take a gander at these anal training basics before you start your anal play adventure:

  • It’s mandatory to use a toy or object that has a flared base. This will ensure that it can be removed easily. Without a flared base, you run the risk of being unable to remove the toy, which is perhaps one’s biggest nightmare come true.
  • The anus doesn’t produce natural lubrication, so lube is imperative during anal training, anal stretching, anal sex, or any anal play for that matter.
  • Avoid numbing agents as it can confuse your body into thinking that there is no pain or discomfort. You should always know if your anal training is painful or not (it shouldn’t be).
  • Being relaxed is essential, as when you’re not relaxed the anal sphincter tends to clench. Anal beads or bulbous butt plugs are great for anal training, as they get larger as you go. If you’re with a partner, massaging or being rimmed beforehand is an excellent idea.
  • Douching, having a bowel movement, or using an enema beforehand can reduce the chances of any ‘accidents’ during anal play.

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Step by Step Anal Training Guide

Now that you know the basics, it’s time to learn how to engage in anal training, or how to train for anal sex.

Step One: Start Small

Anal training isn’t about grabbing the biggest butt plug or anal sex toy and going for gold. It’s the exact opposite. If you’re brand new to any anal stimulation, or you’re not quite experienced, go for an anal training kit for beginners. One that contains three or more different sizes that are all generally quite small.

If your first time consists of inserting only the tip of the toy, that’s perfectly fine. The goal is not to feel any pain, but to slowly feel anal stimulation whilst taking deep breaths. The more relaxed you are, the more receptive the anal sphincter will be.

Step Two: It’s a Process

Once you’ve had your first anal training experience, you’ll understand why we say that anal stretching a process. And because you would have hopefully gotten yourself an anal training kit, you’ll have the tools to move onto bigger and better when the time is right.

Just understand that your second anal training experience could very well be the exact same as your first. Perhaps you don’t go deeper or bigger, and that’s completely fine. As long as you use a lot of lube, are comfortable, don’t force anything, and do not feel any pain, you’re on the right track.

Step Three: Let’s Go Bigger

So, you’ve practiced a few times with perhaps your smallest anal sex toy. And now you’re feeling comfortable enough to try something bigger! Yay! The art of anal training is merely repeating the steps above, but with bigger toys gradually over time. 

Are you ready to move onto the second or third size? If so, follow the steps above by being gentle with yourself, being patient, and stopping when things feel uncomfortable or painful.

It’s also important to decide what your goals are before your anal training adventure. Are you simply looking for information on how to train for anal sex, or are you more interested in the idea of anal stretching. The latter would usually mean using toys that are larger than the average penis. 

When you have a goal in mind, it’ll help you to decide what kinds of toys you can use for your anal training, and the sizes that might work best for your chosen goal.

Anal Stretching: Does Bigger Equal Better?

Not always! Just like anything else, we all experience sexual stimulation and arousal in different ways. What we can vouch for, is that there is a lot of pleasure that can come about during anal sex and anal play

Bigger toys will offer you a bigger sense of fullness, which usually means more sexual satisfaction. But, we advise that you play at your own pace, and enjoy the journey, no matter what size or toy you’re using!

A final note? All kinds of anal stimulation should feel good! If it doesn’t feel good, it’s not being done in the right manner. Of course, there’s always a learning curve, but it is then that you should always check in with yourself and stop if things become painful. 

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