Often, when we think of masturbation, we envision solo play. Masturbation can be a moment in time that encompasses self-love and self-care. And while we’re big advocates of spending quality time with yourself, we’re also big fans of partner masturbation.
There are so many delectable sex toys available for both vulva owners and penis owners… and some of these toys are perfect for a cheeky and sensual bout of mutual masturbation. Engaging in this sexy activity comes with so many perks, and it’s a new and exciting way to turn up the heat during your bedroom trysts.
What is Mutual Masturbation?
Mutual masturbation is when partners use their hands or sex toys to stimulate each other’s pleasure spots. But this isn’t the only way that mutual masturbation can be enjoyed. In fact, lovers can engage in partner masturbation in such a way that they pleasure themselves at the same time.
In this way, it’s not just highly erotic for both partners who get to reach climax by doing what they know will transcend them into pleasurable euphoria, but it will also give their lover the opportunity to watch them writhe in sexual bliss.
Not just that, but when couples engage in mutual masturbation, they’re given a front row viewing seat to their partner’s pleasure. They can see, learn, and imbibe the ways that their partner loves to be touched, making other forms of play even more delicious in the future.
How Can Mutual Masturbation Bring Couples Closer Together?
Because mutual masturbation is like an erotic show for both partners, watching what they do to themselves is a way to make partnered play so much better. It’s like a teaching tool, a means to show each other what they like and what kind of stimulation feels the most arousing to reach feelings of ecstasy and climax. In other words, mutual masturbation is like a sexy “show and tell”, and a non-communicative tool to potentially help future sessions of lust.
For some couples, talking about what they seek in the bedroom can be intimidating. Mutual masturbation is a way to let your partner know what you crave, without having to use the words. It’s quite possibly the most libido-enhancing experience when it comes to “talking” about pleasure.
So why not sit back, relax, and imbibe the sexual energy with your masturbation partner? After all, we are all the masters of our own body.
Tap into the Seductiveness of Voyeurism & Exhibitionism
Another reason why couple masturbation is a spicy addition to your play time routine is that it allows you to be both the voyeur and the exhibitionist at the same time.
A voyeur is someone who gains pleasure from watching others naked or engaging in sexual activity, and an exhibitionist is a person who enjoys being watched while naked or engaging in sexual activity.
Of course partners need not identify as a voyeur or exhibitionist to enjoy the perks of mutual masturbation. It’s simply an added perk of partner masturbation. And in some ways, we all have a touch of voyeuristic or exhibitionistic tendencies within us, wouldn’t you agree? Mutual masturbation is the safest and most consensual way to explore and practice it.
Introducing Sex Toys into Your Mutual Masturbation Routine
You see, the beauty of mutual masturbation is that you can pleasure yourself however you find the most bliss. And if that means using a sex toy, the choice is yours. But of course, talking with your partner beforehand is advised.
If your partner feels apprehensive about sex toys, you can have an earnest conversation with them about how sex toys simply enhance experiences. You could mention that it’s the human connection you two share that provides you with the intimacy they really need in order to feel entirely satisfied. And once both partners are on-board, you’ll be able to make the experience even more fulfilling than if it were you using a sex toy during solo masturbation.
Plus, using a sex toy with your masturbation partner is a great way to introduce sex toys into the relationship, as all they have to do, is watch.